alto — oh, the other thing I realized is how my dad and mom modeled gender roles. My dad insisted on paying the mortgage even when my mom made more. He opened every door and she never drove him anywhere. He also made comments in passing about his sons doing women’s work. So, once I took the test and began to think about where and how this is in my life it clicked. It was and can cause distress in my relationship. But now, I know!