Gwen Saoirse, thank you for your response and sharing your thoughts and experiences. When I wrote this I centered in on the discomfort in white settings, but I almost added how I feel similar in settings with men and churchgoers to include older, Black people. For me, this feeling is broad and it hangs over many scenarios. The overwhelming presence of people who look like those who have harmed me and others can stir up thoughts in my mind. I have to address it because my coping skills aren’t the best lately. I also agree with you about life events and empathy. I need and want more of those experiences myself.