In your first scenario, you referred to yourself. You killed the cat, my cat. In your first scenario, you are a faceless stranger, a strange neighbor? Now you want to change the scenario. The point in my story still stands. The factors you want to add are already in this story. Ms. Rose is someone I’ve known of since the 90s. My response to her takes into account my relation to her, who she is, the location, and all. Her intent still doesn’t trump the impact. Although you are reaching for another example and a larger point, it’s all there in my story.